Take a Beat!

Actions have consequences!

It is always wise to take a beat before reacting.

Make your response thoughtful.

~R. H. Lelchuk

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Today’s Transformation – Did you Notice That?

As mentioned before, we humans are more like machines in our mental make-up than not. Your reactions and responses to certain stimuli are usually the same, unless you consciously intervene. In order to transform anything in your life it is essential to begin to notice your reactions and responses to events BEFORE responding.

Noticing your reactions and responses begins the process of distinguishing a machine like response from a transformed human response. Being conscious of your thoughts in any given situation gives you the chance to choose the type of reaction to have.

It takes practice, a lot of practice, to slow your system down long enough to think through your next step. Try it for just the next hour, the next 60 minutes. Become aware of your thoughts as events occur and then choose how to respond.

The game is to always be aware of your thoughts and responses. Even as a skilled practitioner of this technique the occasional instant reaction slips through. After all, you are human.

OK? Trial run begins now for one hour.

© Copyright 2011 Lynn and Rick Lelchuk

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Today’s Transformation – E + R = O

We humans are machines. We respond almost identically in most situations. We even talk about having our buttons pushed when we react to someone. Very machine like. 

Psychotherapist, Robert Resnick devised a simple formula to describe human behavior. E + R = O or Event plus Response equals Outcome. Working on your response to an event will alter the outcome to any event.

When my ex-wife stood in front of me with her arm crossed and said, “We’ve got to talk” my immediate reaction was to back away wondering what I had done wrong this time. You can imagine the outcome of those interactions. My response was always the same.

When my current wife says the exact same words I lean in and eagerly want to know what’s on her mind, even if her arms are crossed. A different reaction to a similar event.

Transformation has occurred.

The next time a familiar situation happens to you notice your immediate reaction. It’s like punching B8 on a juke box and always getting the same song. We become predictable in our reactions.

Noticing your reaction is the first step in transforming a behavior.

© Copyright 2011 Lynn and Rick Lelchuk

Inspiring Transitions

Your Business. Your Life. Your Terms