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Living causes problems. It’s inevitable. It's normal. Problems are things that we think “shouldn’t be.” Transformation occurs by using breakdowns as a path to what’s possible, to get out of our comfort zone, and to succeed in a new way. That’s how breakdowns lead to breakthroughs.
Transformation is ongoing. Although one might not have the same viewpoint after a transformational insight, it takes continuous introspection and continuous distinguishing to create a framework of enduring transformation.
Life transforms when choices are made. Choice is a powerful tool for creation. When we choose, rather than decide, we author our lives in all situations. Deciding kills off the alternatives in an elimination process. Choice arises in possibility, free from the past.
Language is a distinctly human gift. Commonly it is thought to give access to the world. It is a world to word, world to language relation. We don’t consider that our language gives definition to our world and that there might be an alternative context.
Transformation occurs in the willingness to see any situation from a point of view other than your own.
So much of our lives are a variation on what has come before. We strive for more, better or different of what has come before.
Who we see ourselves to be has been constructed from early childhood. From the very first incidence of “something is wrong here” or “this shouldn’t be” we created a set of characteristics to deal with world based upon a response to it. We have assembled a set of attributes, approaches and practices that provide a measure of success and we consider ourselves to be this.
An old Grandfather said to his grandson, who came to him with anger at a friend who had done him an injustice, let me tell you a story.
Oops, we forgot. It is the nature of being human to forget that we’ve made judgments and evaluations as we grew up and now live in that is reality. We constructed the world out of which we now operate. Our collection of characteristics, attributes and experiences is our reality.
The world occurs to each of us from our own point of view. Regardless of that point of view certain things are just the way that they are. The sky is blue, the sun rises in the east and your mother is your mother. Nothing can be done to change these things accept your point of view about them.
Transformation occurs when your internal story about an occurrence, person, place or thing is blown out of the water every time it surfaces. Stand in possibility, deal with the facts and create newly.
We complain. We judge. We evaluate. It’s a normal function of being human even if it is unproductive. We complain that things shouldn’t be a certain way, a person shouldn’t be the way they are, life should be different. Even though our complaints seem justified, even legitimate, there is a certain payoff we get that reinforces the behavior. But, every payoff comes with a cost. And, in the case of complaints it’s personal affinity, aliveness, fulfillment and expression free from concern.
We love patterns. We do the same routine every morning before going to work. We drive the same route. Eat mostly at the same places for lunch. When we grocery shop we tend to walk the same aisle in the same order week in and week out. We have patterns and routines when on the computer. The list goes on and on. Oh, and we complain about the same stuff over and over and over.
Things happen in life. There are the facts about what happened and there is the story you tell yourself about what happened.
